How to Set Boundaries With Family?

• Say NO without feeling guilty.
• Able to openly talk about issues you are facing.
• Won’t tolerate abuse or control.
• Admit your mistakes and ask for forgiveness.
• Not getting offended about others’ boundaries.
• Comfortable enough to share information at the appropriate time.
• Always getting appreciated even for your smallest achievements.
• Encouraged or supported for personal growth.
• Asking for help without any fear.

• Find it really difficult to say NO.
• Finding it difficult to open up about your feelings.
• Tolerate abuse and control.
• Deny your mistake.
• Overshare personal information.
• Scared to ask for help.
• Manipulate you to make you feel guilty.
• Deny taking responsibility for their harmful behavior.
• Leaving you feeling exhausted by draining your energy.
• Compromising personal value and need for the sake of others.

You need to respect other people’s opinions and feelings but that does not mean your feelings do not matter. If someone disrespects you or hurts you in any way, you should not excuse their behavior. People often show who they are through their behavior. If you put yourself first, they will not be able to manipulate you.

First, you need to figure out what your expectations are from this person and if can they fully satisfy your expectations. People who deal with toxic family members often ignore their needs and feelings. This is why they always feel stuck and drained. When you stop addressing your needs and feelings you will feel disconnected from reality and find it difficult to be yourself. You always need to remember that you only have yourself. Prioritizing your needs and feelings is the first step in setting boundaries with your family.

If you do not stop people from disrespecting you, they may take you for granted and ignore your boundaries. A healthy relationship’s core is mutual respect. Without respect you have nothing. Sometimes it will be hard for you to analyze disrespectful behavior. At first, it may be subtle, but it can become violent over time. It can also lead to emotional abuse.

Disrespectful behavior can cause self-doubt, irritation, shame, anger, and uncertainty. You start to feel unsure about your thoughts and face obstacles at every step. It becomes very difficult to achieve your goals when you are filled with these negative thoughts.

If you ever encounter disrespectful behavior, you need to analyze the reason behind it and acknowledge the disrespect. If you see that the disrespectful behavior was not then you should take necessary action because you do not deserve to be disrespected in any way. If your action is wrong, they should talk to you about it. They should acknowledge you as a respectful family member.

Confronting a toxic family member is never easy. You need to be prepared for their reactions. All you need is a little encouragement and confidence. There is some disagreement that you cannot ignore. If you ignore them long enough it can be the biggest problem in your life. A toxic person will always gaslight you by saying that their actions meant no harm, you are overreacting or denying causing you harm. The more you tolerate this behavior the more they will take you for granted.

As soon as you realize they were intentionally causing you harm, you must confront them. You should express your feelings and emotions. You need to make sure they know that they are being disrespectful. Some confrontations can cause chaos but in the end, they can make the situation better.

The majority of the time we get so caught up in avoiding a toxic person, we forget to take care of ourselves. As a result, we started to become distant, unhappy, and depressed. I someone makes you feel uncomfortable, you need to embrace the feeling and analyze it for what it is.

You always need to set realistic expectations. You can expect a toxic person to understand your feelings and try to change himself at that moment. Dealing with a toxic family member can be draining and irritating. Have realistic expectations while confronting them.

Suppose you feel that they are overstepping your boundaries and fail to acknowledge you. You should decide if they are worth having or not. If their behavior largely impacts your mood throughout the day you know what you should do.

You cannot cut off ties with your toxic family member. Some people can change when they realize their mistakes. Everybody deserves a second chance. You should provide them an opportunity to explain themselves. If you notice them doing the same hurtful behavior, you should cut them off for your mental and emotional well-being.

We often feel guilty saying NO even though we are the one who is getting hurt. You must practice saying NO whenever you feel discomfort about certain behavior.  A toxic family member will always try to push their opinion on you. If you get them off guard by saying NO, they will feel completely baffled and will not find any courage to control you. This is especially the case for people who find pleasure in your discomfort.

At first, you will face many difficulties, but it will be easy over time. You can feel pressured to say yes when you want to say NO, this type of situation can affect your self-esteem and mental health. When a toxic person realizes that you are standing up for yourself, they will think twice before trying to approach you.

You should live your life in your own way. Nobody should stop you from chasing your dream. A toxic person will always find a new way to make you feel worthless and belittle you. You should stand up for yourself if no one is supporting you. Sometimes setting boundaries and confronting them is not enough. You can stand up for yourself but a toxic person will always find a way to make you upset.

You need to practice and have patience. You may have to confront them over and over. This is a horrible situation to be in but you cannot give up hope. If you believe in yourself, you can achieve anything.  You need to force yourself to believe that no one can control you and affect your mood. You are in charge only you will decide what your fate will be.

You cannot spend your whole life trying to sacrifice your happiness to make others feel better. You need to believe that you matter, your time is precious like others. You cannot permit others to waste your time. If you make people a priority, you will always ignore your true feelings.

If you feel that a toxic family member does not give you proper respect and wastes your time by making the same mistake. You should walk away from them. There are no ways to mend things with them if they are not trying. At first, it would be difficult and painful that they fail to value you. Always remember it can save you from future chaos and trauma if you value your time.

You cannot stuck in a place where you do not feel appreciated. You should try making friends or meet family members who can value you. For example, if your dad continuously hurts you, you can walk away from him. Walking from him can make your life easier and more positive. It might be difficult to do at first, but learning to let go of toxic relationships is for the better.

Everyone deserves a better relationship with their family. You can be a part of a healthy family by eliminating the toxic person. Sacrificing your sanity for a toxic family can never bring you happiness. That’s why you should get out of your comfort zone and try to look for better family members.

You should know which type of behavior triggers you. It could be your dad calling you useless, your sister saying bad things about you behind your back or your mom not acknowledging your feelings and denying them. You let a toxic member in your head and yell in frustration. They will find a way to put you down if you react.

You need to know your triggers, what is causing them, and how to deal with them. If you can take control of your mind, it will fail to trigger you. You should always keep in mind that a toxic individual will always try to get a reaction from you.

We are all familiar with family gossip. It is a way toxic family members belittle other people and spread false rumors. Nothing good can come from it. It also affects your mental and emotional health.

You should try avoiding family gossip for your well-being.  You can block or remove these types of people from your life. They can never tolerate seeing other people happy. If they cannot feel happy about others’ achievements, imagine what they can feel towards you.